"Marriage is what brings us together. Marriage, that blessed arrangement... that dream, within a dream." (ex Princess Bride)

When we get married, we are saying many things. But the most important thing we are saying is that our spouses have a non-overridable interrupt and a completely open back propogation channel.

This means that if my spouse needs my attention, I ignore everything else and give it to her. And if she tells me I am wrong, I evaluate her thought forms with absolute attention. I may or may not back propogate the error she has described, but I can only ignore it if I have thought deeply about it. And if I do ignore it, I must tell her why or else suffer her wrath, deservedly.